You’ve found that special someone on the best online dating sites, and everything is going great. Your first date was perfect. So was your first kiss. But there’s one problem: your partner doesn’t share your love for getting outside. Although you don’t mind occasional indoor dates, you would rather go outside camping than watch a movie at home. And here you have to compromise.
How to Get Your Indoorsy SO to become an Outdoorsy Person?
Getting outdoors is good for you for many reasons. Besides sharpening your memory and concentration, getting outdoors lifts spirits and boosts your immunity. It also aids weight management. You burn more calories while hiking or cycling than curling up on the couch. Additionally, getting outside increases dopamine levels and reduces cortisol to make you happier. Any activity is more beneficial with someone special than when you do it alone. This is according to a study published by Psychological Science. The good news is you can turn the most indoorsy person into a nature lover. Here’s how to start getting outside with your significant other without ruining your relationship:
- Invite Them Outside
Sometimes, getting outside with your partner is as simple as extending an invitation. Supposing your partner had rough days at work, you can convince them to take a trip with you by explaining why getting outside relieves stress. Tell your partner that though you could go out alone, getting outside is more exciting with them around.
Timing is also crucial when talking to your lover about getting outside. Rather than bombarding your partner with demands when they get home, wait for them to relax. For instance, you can wait for your spouse to leave the shower and give them a foot rub before raising the topic of getting outside. If they’re still reluctant, accompany the offer with something they like. For example, you can stop by your partner’s favorite ice cream shop on your way from the picnic site.
- Plan Together
Nobody wants to feel side-lined. Besides fostering teamwork, planning the trip together prevents surprises by showing your partner what they’re getting into. For example, you could ask for your partner’s help when choosing a place to stay. Although you shouldn’t sound like a know-it-all, don’t leave everything to your partner. They can share ideas about getting outdoors but don’t burden them with major planning decisions.
Remember, you’re more versed with the outdoors than they are. Supposing you’re going hiking, suggest the best hiking trails and let your partner choose one of them. What’s more, create a backpacking checklist and help them pack appropriate supplies. You could also offer to drive and carry the luggage to ease your partner’s experience. Again, inform them about necessary travel documents and vaccinations.
- Be Flexible
Things won’t always go as planned. Even the most seasoned travelers encounter inconveniences at some point in their journey. It’s your job to prepare your significant other for such mishaps. Remember, the beauty of getting outside lies in the uncertainty of your encounters. Instead of routine outdoor activities, try new adventures for a more memorable experience.
Moreover, don’t be afraid to take a detour from your route to discover hidden attractions. You can also interact with new people during the trip. Who knows, you and your partner might make lifelong friends.
- Start Small
Getting outside requires practice, especially if you’re not used to it. As such, don’t rush your partner into getting outside. Start small to gauge your partner’s fitness level and determine what they’re comfortable with. Assuming you want to introduce your partner to cycling, you can ride your bikes around the neighborhood before going to rocky terrain.
Again, maintain your partner’s pace, taking regular breaks. Don’t forget to reward your loved one’s efforts for getting outside their comfort zone. For example, you can take them out for dinner or make a special meal at home.
- Understand Their Reasons
Your partner could have valid reasons why they hate getting outside. For example, they might bear painful memories or injuries from their past adventures. Similarly, ask yourself: why does getting outside with your partner mean so much to you? Be careful when you talk about this and try to understand your partner’s dislikes. If your significant other doesn’t like cycling, you should choose the activity your partner prefers more.
Getting outside is more than just leaving the house. It entails getting outside of your comfort zone to try new things with your significant other. You can never go wrong with a little more spontaneity in your relationship. For instance, you can plan impromptu dates, include crazy ideas in your bucket list, or do something kinky in the bedroom. How do you stay in love with your partner? Mention some benefits of getting outside in the comments.
Sh. Kimball is a guest blogger and family coach. She helps couples to find understanding in relations. In her free time, she is cooking and doing yoga.